No child is bad, no child is difficult. If you have ever felt bad and difficult in your life, please meditate on this: no child is difficult; it is the system built around them that makes them appear that way.
And within this system, the family is the most important part. Of your self-judgments, the family is the most important part when it fails to recognize the beauty you carry within you, your uniqueness when it doesn’t invite you to take your place in the world.
The main source of pain that arises within a family is always connected to someone being excluded, abandoned, forgotten. And what does a child do in such a case? It takes example from others who, like them, have felt excluded in the past. Perhaps it has never met them and will never meet them, but in its heart, it feels each of them.
Every week, I observe it: children of all ages who are always restless, carrying their own wounds and the anger of all those who have been ignored. Children who later become parents we consider difficult, hearts that still carry the burden of the excluded, who never truly open up to others because they are laden with a collective injustice that consumes their love.
Because the excluded remain connected to each other by an invisible yet powerful thread, both in falling and in rising. And this creates such a heavy burden on certain days, but also an unexpected miracle on others. It happens that as soon as one of the excluded is once again welcomed and understood, some link in their chain is also freed from a burden. Every time we forgive, respect, collaborate, learn to see the other… somewhere, a child smiles.
So, what is ultimately the most important thing for me, for you, for every individual, and for the entire generation?
That everyone finds their natural place, that everyone finally feels worthy of taking the place that has been denied to them. This will lift the hearts of all of humanity to become a little more of what they have always wanted to be: a family.
A grateful embrace