When things aren’t going well and the surrounding reality no longer seems consistent with the person you are today, you have only three options:
The first is to commit to change and give yourself new possibilities inside and out. Fear of the unknown has kept you from understanding who you are for too long, discovering how many versions of yourself exist. In the Italian language, there is this wonderful saying: “throw your heart over the obstacle,” which means that if you let your heart look beyond a difficult moment, it will have the strength to inspire the rest of you to overcome it. It takes courage to transform; follow your heart.
The second option is to accept the situation and learn how to live it more deeply, how to enjoy it better. And sometimes, to do this, you will need to be more honest with yourself and with others: communicate your vulnerability, your desires, and give your world the opportunity to love you, to love all of you. At this moment in your life, there are people who have come to transform you and enrich you immensely; some come to take, others to give, some to go, and others to stay. Of course, when you are honest, those around you may not always be understanding, but it’s worth giving them a chance. You have come to where you are for a reason.
The third option is to balance your daily commitment with activities dedicated solely to your nourishment. Because every form of sincere altruism comes from a seed of healthy selfishness: if you don’t do something for yourself, if you neglect the need for sweet solitude, soon the energy and vital strength to dedicate to others will also run out. Don’t just chase emergencies; make yourself a priority and give yourself moments just for you.
Beyond these three possibilities, remember that every day your path will reveal itself, and you will always be accompanied on your journey. The entire Universe is conspiring at this moment so that, no matter what happens, you can become the best version of yourself. Painfully or joyfully, immersed in the parts of this great game, you will become it.
To paraphrase a prayer by Thomas More:
“Life, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can change,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”
A hug just for you.