Overcoming Unfulfilled Expectations

The distance that forms between us and others in a relationship is always the result of many small unfulfilled expectations.

Moments in which we wished the other would give us that attention, that affection we felt in need of, and instead found them absent, distracted, not empathetic enough.

And from the missed expectations often also comes a certain amount of anger. Anger that is always desperate love, a love that no longer finds its way to express itself, its path to fulfillment.

Yet, this mechanism can be overcome, indeed overcoming it means encountering a great personal and spiritual change.

And this happens when you not only realize, but feel and experience, the awareness that the people you meet will never be able to fully meet your expectations and that when they fail, it’s not because they have something against you, but simply because it’s not their job to fill all the needs you carry within: that’s a task for you.

Everyone desires to be loved so much and forgets that loving oneself is the fundamental prerequisite for starting. Because only those who are capable of loving themselves, of being their own first friend, accomplice, partner, are capable of loving others and supporting them on their path to happiness.

Recognize how many unfulfilled expectations you carry with you, how much desiring love beats in your heart and direct it from the start towards yourself, respond to it through your relationship with yourself.

Every distance is overcome when it is overcome within.

An embrace in love